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"N" Quotes.

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"N" Quotes.

Postby Echo on Wed Dec 10, 2008 2:13 pm

Hi All, I was just reading Rachelle's thread about her exN's self-revealing quote and thinking about Matilda's suggestion that we collect some of the quotes from our ex's.

I'm thinking that the results will be quite staggering when we see them all together, and might be helpful for others to get an insight into the workings of the minds of N's.

OK, so lets see, some of the stunning words of "wisdom" of xP.



"You do it for me, then I won't have failed". :roll:

"I like Echo - she does what I say" :?

" I love you - come back or I will kill you" :shock:

"I want what I have with you - only I want it with her" :P


Theres a few for now, and there's still the rich source of my N fatherinlaw to come.

Anyone care to add on ... and we'll make it a feature in resources?
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Postby paul59 on Wed Dec 10, 2008 2:26 pm

"sorry sucks"

"Theres no such thing as a lie, the only thing that exists is oneness"

"Who knows, maybe I blow it with Neil and end up back with you"

and after my D-Day.... "Can we be friends"
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The Narcissism Book of Quotes

Postby samvaknin on Wed Dec 10, 2008 5:34 pm

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Postby Trinity38100 on Wed Dec 10, 2008 7:23 pm

Ex husband: "I married you because you take such good care of me." :evil:

Ex boyfriend: "I want to date other people, but I'll be jealous if you do." :?

The xN: "I didn't fall in love with someone else, she set me up to look like I did." :shock:
Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
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Postby Cascy on Wed Dec 10, 2008 8:10 pm

A couple of things she said:

'Love is not enough to stay with someone'

On men she met behind my back: ' It is OK - it's not like I had sex with them' and 'It's your fault I go out to meet them'
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Postby Lukky on Thu Dec 11, 2008 1:58 am

" How come you let me drink so much" :shock:

" The reason I saw it as ok to visit Brothels is because when I told you I had visited one after my first marriage break up you said "good for you" so I didnt think you would care!!" :?

Sickos!!!

Great Thread my Alien Friend.......xox
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Postby paul59 on Thu Dec 11, 2008 2:27 am

My Xn is on a quest for perfect harmony with God and her newfound religeous cult.Just before our D-Day, she had a sudden voracious desire for sex. I asked her what prompted the change. Her answer: "The sex between us is for oneness with everybody, its everybodys sex."How efficient... she managed to do everybody in just one encounter!
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Postby 1PrettyMirror on Thu Dec 11, 2008 3:41 am

"God allowed the devil to posses me; that's why I..." (fill in blank)
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Postby violetblue on Thu Dec 11, 2008 3:42 am

me: Why is everything you tell me a lie?
N: Because if I told you the truth, you wouldn't believe me.
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Postby ExhaustedAussie on Thu Dec 11, 2008 9:28 am

Love this post, my husband started a MSN space weeks after I left. Well, it was full of quotes, sayings etc.
Some made up, some from other sources, enjoy!

Please note the spelling and grammar is left as is, terrible.

Thought of the day: One year have gone by. So fast and if i could have it again i would be a different person as it doesn't get you any ware to be on track minded or shellfish.

(I did laugh VERY hard at that, my family still have a laugh about his "shellfishness", stinky alright)

None should get married to end it all soon.

(Well this no one didn't expect she married a psychopath who was violent!)

Sayings: God is clever, but not dishonest.

(Um wtf? He thought he was god too?)

A lawyer with a briefcase can steal more than a thousand men with guns.

(Well that son of a bitch made my life hell with court appearances because he kept stalking me, at my cost)


Life is like a dream, sometimes it is good and sometimes it is bad, but in the end it is over.

(Well life is short, just like our marriage)

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.

(LMAO, person or personalities, in which case, which one!)

The clincher.....

ONE THING I CAN GIVE AND STILL KEEP; MY WORD.


_____________________________________________________________

You have to laugh.

The more I read this, the more glad and relieved I am that I did leave.

:lol:
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Postby louxloux on Thu Dec 11, 2008 11:18 am

Me: Why all the lies?

Him: I was trying to protect you.


Protect me from what? The truth about himself? How very valiant. He should have done that at the ONSET by not getting back in touch; not after doing deliberate damage.

Truth is, the lies were not about protecting me at all - it was about protecting his ego and false image of himself. It was so he would not have to take responsibility for HIS OWN ACTIONS. period.

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Postby Echo on Thu Dec 11, 2008 4:25 pm

LOL @ Exhausteds shellfish N :lol: ,

These are so great, thanks everyone.

My NPfatherinlaw.

"Anyone can tell a lie...I can tell a lie and prove it". :evil:

"Rule 1 - N is always right"
"Rule2 - Even when N is wrong, N is always right" :shock:
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Postby 1PrettyMirror on Thu Dec 11, 2008 4:56 pm

"Anyone can tell a lie...I can tell a lie and prove it". :evil:

What?? LOL!!


Mine was soooo convinced everyone else was lying, he'd go on the internet to look up the body language of liars. Maybe it was even to cover his own tracks, who knows.

dum shellfish Ns! LOL!
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Postby Rachelle on Fri Dec 12, 2008 12:30 am

Hmmm what else can I add:

I didn't hit you I just gestured and you walked into me

I know that there's something missing in me but I'm really okay aren't I (stated NOT as a question and the missing parts being empathy, compassion etc)

I do know how to build intimacy and caring with you as a couple. When I asked how did he think he showed this he replied "I talk to you on the phone, that's enough" :shock: :?

But his "Shattering the illusion" tops the list!!!!!

I only get angry because when you are crying and upset you provok me into swearing and yelling at you and you won't look at me when I do it....(IRONIC)

:evil:

What a blind noddy I was, things are so much clearer now!
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Postby Woodlington on Fri Dec 12, 2008 10:04 am

'Go on, you do it, you're sooooo much better at it than me'

'If I wasn't happy/OK/like it here I wouldn't be here'
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