Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Pretty_Lady · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 554

Where are you guys? I talk to myself, and please do not kick me out for posting a lot!!
I just ordered myself a nice swim suit unlike anything I have ordered before. I wanted it to be a new beginning. I feel little more comfortable with my body I wanted to go for something more(what's the right word) uncovering? I am just so nervious about it!!!

Please share one thing you have done after a progress in healing.
PL
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justmee · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 692

Lol, I do not think we will get the boot for posting. I think they like that.

I only have a minuite here, my cat is missing and I have been searching for him. This cat, Hawndorf is so special. He is no ordinary cat and comes home every nite. He is fixed and he has been gone for three days so I am searching every place I can think off....

Okay, rambling again.... Very Happy

. I think that is wonderful, good for you. I, last year bought myself a pink sweater. Now that does not sound like much but after all the abuse I did not want to draw attention to myself. So, I always wore blues and browns...my whole life. So for me to purchase pink....it was a milestone. I think youre new bathing suit is....
so I smile at the thought, amazing how we can grow if left alone....

Okay, back to my search....I have had him for years and I have to find him...

justmee

Pretty_Lady · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 554

justmee, I am sorry you can not find your cat. Hope Hawndorf comes home soon. Keep me posted when you find him.

Good for you for buying a pink sweater. That's a huge sign of healing when you feel you can wear the color and be okay with the attention. See it's a one small thing but its a turning point. I am happy we can see this.

I think I am going to call my friend and go to movies. I think it will be so refreshing. I am so glad I have wonderful friends in this town.
Also so glad I have wonderful support group friends on line.

Okay, talk to you soon. I know every one will be back and post something. Hope every one is coping with NM day. Smile

PL
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alamobelle3 · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 615 Location: San antonio Texas

Why My Lips Stayed Chapped on Mother's Day
So, we had this great 10 year old cat named Jack who just recently died. Jack was a great cat and the kids would carry him around and sit on him and nothing ever bothered him. He used to hang out and nap all day long on this mat in our bathroom.
Well we have 3 kids and at the time of this story they were 4 years old, 3 years old and 1 year old. The middle one is Eli. Eli really loves chapstick. LOVES it. He kept asking to use my chapstick and then losing it. So finally one day I showed him where in the bathroom I keep my chapstick and how he could use it whenever he wanted to but he needed to put it right back in the drawer when he was done.
Last year on Mother's Day, we were having the typical rush around and try to get ready for Church with everyone crying and carrying on. My two boys are fighting over the toy in the cereal box. I am trying to nurse my little one at the same time I am putting on my make-up.
Everything is a mess and everyone has long forgotten that this is a wonderful day to honor me and the amazing job that is motherhood. We finally have the older one and the baby loaded in the car and I am looking for Eli.
I have searched everywhere and I finally round the corner to go into the bathroom. And there was Eli. He was applying my chapstick very carefully to Jack's . . . rear end. Eli looked right into my eyes and said "chapped." Now if you have a cat, you know that he is right--their little butts do look pretty chapped. And, frankly, Jack didn't seem to mind. And the only question to really ask at that point was whether it was the FIRST time Eli had done that to the cats behind or the hundredth.
And THAT is my favorite Mother's Day moment ever because it reminds us that no matter how hard we try to civilize these glorious little creatures, there will always be that day when you realize they've been using your chapstick on the cat's butt.
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seekingserenity · Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 179

Something new -- I did not call or send a card to NM for mother's day this year. First time ever. I feel some guilt, but I am remembering why I am NC. At least I don't feel fake -- sending a card when I don't want to -- only to appease my guilt. Anyway, hope everyone had a good day.

wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 367

alamobelle, can't bet that story, glad to see we're in the same boat, mine are 6, 4, & 9m, busy... mother's day was quiet here, breakfast in bed and i got to sleep in 7:00a with only one kid, i take sleep when,where, how i can get it. i do remember one rainy mother's day, had to get out of the house, went to lunch by myself and saw all the mother's with their families...i felt a little guilty and won't leave the house with at least one of them on m.day! another quick one, both sister and i did not send cards, nothing, no attempt for contact either, she reminded me of years past when i found mother's day cards with nothing written in the middle just signed my name, sister said my NM commented on that, bet those cards were hard to find. sister said, the NPs are buying extravagant cards for each other, giving each other NS!!! small steps in recovery, i'm doing things my NM would have comments about or never dream of doing. my daughter and i are taking a trip to visit my sister and her aunt and we're staying in a hotel, flying on an airplane... NM would have so much to say about the $$$, it feels free, but at the same time uncomfortable, it will get easier, though. don't you feel we are so structured and controlled from our childhood??? hope everyone is well, i think the forums down were a problem for some of us, hopefully we can get going again...

justmee · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 692

I am sitting here in tears, I so love that story Alamobelle....I can not stop laughing at what Eli did....

Seeking Serenity....I am in the same boat. This is the first missed mothers day....I feel some guilt but I am letting it go....

wlw....I applaud you and hope you have a wonderful trip..

Matilda....I am still laughing...

PLady, I hope you had a awesome day....

and I still can not find Hawndorf.....he is my baby and I am a bit lost. I have searched the property...almost 27 acres. Tomorrow I am going to put a ad in the paper...I love my cat, hope my son never put chapstick on his rear.....lol..

Pretty_Lady · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 554

alamobelle, funny mother's day story. Smile

seekingserenity - me too, I only called her so I do not feel guilty. Hope you had a good day.
Matilda - that was funny, wasn't it! Smile

always love to see someone cheer. Smile

wlw - yes I do feel I am st ructured and conrolled from my childhood. It's like I had no brain of my own. Why would any one parent enjoy that unless they have serious N issues. Beyond me.
justmee, hope you find your cat. Sad

Have a good night every one. Tomorrow is a new day.
PL
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thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 488

Alamobelle, your story prompted a spontanous and loud outburst of laughter here in the library! I did not see that one coming. I'm still smiling and laughing.

I'm like you Justmee, I prefer to understate myself. I have two pairs of denim jeans, a selection of black, white and grey t-shirts and a couple of flanellete shirts. I'm very comfortable in my clothes and I like the way I dress. I did buy myself a good quality and stylish pair of sunnies which are fantastic both for their job and my vanity. I also wish Hawndorf a safe return. Perhaps Hawndorf is on his own journey of self-discovery for a few days and will return a more rounded and well-adjusted feline for the experience.

To you PL, even though you may feel self-concious in your new attire I'm sure you look great. To ease your worries I speak for all men when I say we aint fussy and any self-perceived imperfection will go unnoticed in an attractive bikini-clad woman.

Oh man, that story Alamobelle! A friend of mine used to call his cats "Brassholes" in reference to the similarity of the cat's behind and old style locks. Your story made my day.

Pretty_Lady · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 554

Thank you thayilflies, for guys perspective. Sometimes things are misunderstood between guys and girls. For example, I really do not care about a guy who is all build up, like Arnold. Smile

Anyway - thank you. I am waiting to get my swim suit soon. sigh. I wish I had a pool.
Anyway. Good Day. Monday morning, I have to go to work and face the world.
PL
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wlw35 · Joined: 09 Mar 2007 Posts: 367

PL, hope you had a good monday morning, those can be rough,
justmee-i hope you find your cat, i'm going to tell you a true story, when we moved from ohio to texas around age 8, we were entering the plane (remember when you climbed a ladder outside the plane?) well, our siamese cat escaped from her cat carrier, we saw the whole thing, they were doing work on the air port, he was found 6 months later when a construction worker had a tuna sandwich, we got him back, a little skinny and he had a changed personality, the moral, you will find your cat, good thoughts coming to you!!! wlw

finding peace · Joined: 16 Apr 2007 Posts: 24

alamobelle3 - I will never look at a chapstick the same way again - Laughing

((((Justmee))))) - my cats have gotten me through some of the worst times of my life (may sound silly, but at some points they were all I had) - sending you prayers that he comes home safe and sound.

Peace
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justmee · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 692

Thankyou all for the support. He has not returned. My daughter adopted Hawndorf, he is one unique cat. Well, she was in the process of moving to do a intership at the capitol. Her new apartment would not allow animals so I ended up with him. At first I did not like him and to be honest, he always has gas....I offered her a hundred bucks to take him back, lol...

Well, Hawndorf and I came to a understanding after that. If he got to drink out of the tub, then he wouldnt claw my furniture. If I gave him my Cleveland Browns blanket, he would sleep on the bottom of the bed. If I let him sit on the computer desk then he would not mess with the keys...

He went thru alot with me and he became almost like therapy for me, I put the ad in the paper, my closest neighbor thinks a coyote might have gotten him, I so hope not....

Ahhh, there I go rambling again, lol....the Lady in the pink sweater...by the way Thay...blue jeans are my favorite...