Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

My husband had a cruel mother, as a result he is psychopathic but he appears quite the opposite. I am fairly gentle by nature and have submitted to the demands of my (recently divorced, 3 yrs) ex-husband. When I married my husband I tried to build his confidence up, as he seemed lacking in it. He played the 'poor me' role to the nth degree. I think I was in pity with him rather than love. I ignored the warning bells, believing things would get better as his confidence improved. Nothing improved. Both he and his mother were mean to me. When I became pregnant it was decided that I would continue working and he would stay at home to look after our son, who was never allowed to call me mum but used my christian name. My husband taunted me because I was working it bothered him that I could earn money. He would verbally attack me for being noble and wanting to share the responsibility of earning with him. He could make Mother Teresa seem like Satan. We had very little money as a result of him not working too. This was used constantly against me. I worked overtime whenever I could, which was often. Eventually, with continual undermining and contradictory behaviour from him (I thought he was a schizophrenic) I became increasingly so ill I was diagnosed as having M.E. The stress had actually kicked out my thyroid and I was very very ill. During arguments my husband would kick below the belt metaphorically speaking, and I would be a sobbing broken mass so ill I had to go to bed. My husband would then take our son out and 'love bomb' him (a very childish way of winning him over,' which I thought then, was accidental). I did not try to use my son, but I did on occasion complain to him about his fathers mean behaviour, it was more an example of how not to behave than to convert my son to my side as such.
As I was so ill I was told by ex I would not get custody of our son if I divorced. I endured 30 yrs of this cruelty for my son. Now my son is convinced by his brainwashing father that I was the one who caused him pain and worst, that I made him ill by getting him DIAGNOSED with an under active thyroid. He's now ill because his father's convinced him he mustn't take thyroxine. My son tells me he can't see me, as I remind him of his painfilled childhood. Psychopath father's able to project all his bad behaviour on me. I'm sure my son think's I'm the psychopath. I can't rip my son in two with the truth. HELP

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Sam