Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

Hi Sailor! Yes I could use a support person who understood what I am up against here and what an N truely is.

Summer to answer your question, yes this has been the same judge for years. He ALWAYS used to rule in my favor. Yes I can ask him to recuse himself off my case and after this next hearing I will do it, UNLESS the judge changes his tune. I am bringing in a LOT of witnesses, professional and otherwise and I have the Womens Shelter group and another local watch dog group that will be at the hearing supporting me trying to see that I get a fair hearing. But I figure if nothing else S14 is old enough to runaway (which I am confident he would do) if he is ordered to go live with XN. S14 and I have already worked out an emergency plan so he knows where the nearest pay phone is to Ns in case he does not have his cell phone and needs to call me. The new KA is learning my case and I have sent him witnesses and he now says that these visits should not be going on, BUT S14 wants them (because KA told S14 that if he did not take the unsupervised visits his dad would never see him again AARRRGGGHHH!!!)

I am giving it one last hurahh in court Nov. 2 and if it does not go my way, S can runaway. If it does go our way, then I will consider having the judge recuse himself or not.
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Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 901

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1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

I think Sailor was talking about us being a support system too and I am all for it! But how would we connect safely without sharing phone #s or something on this site? I am new here so there may be a way or something I dont know about....

Unfortunately, actually (long story here) N has been taking me to court off and on for SIX years, 4 years steady. He has several friends that are attorneys and have worked with him numerous times even when he purposely quit working and had zero and near zero income for two years straight. They always wanted me to be without an attorney and him to have an attorney in court and they have finally gotten what they want for a VERY important hearing too. I have been pro per many times throughout the last several years out of necessity (my kids and I were homeless 2x because of all this). For awhile the attorney friends were helping XN "outside" of court and he would "pretend" to be unrepresented, but really was not.... what this accomplished was putting me in a position where I could not even ask for attorney fees and went pro per against him and behind the scene attorneys. It has all been pure abuse thru the legal system.

One day when I can actually breathe, I want to take the paralegal course too and then go help the Women's Shelter.
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Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 901

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1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

Summer, just do the best you can do now because when your kids are grown you have to know that you DID DO the best you could now. My N has violated EVERY rule and order forever! Yet the judge does not know this either. The KA knows this and says N is not capable of following rules and sets his own rules, but does not know what the judge will do about it......if anything... It's funny some of the rules N has broken were rules he asked for himself.
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