Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

I wrote this during the pain my ex P was putting me through and the confusion and turmoil I was in.

Love
**The following questions and statements refer to all types of love relations, ie...family, friends, and significant others. These are rhetorical questions.

I just wanna know, what things are definite of love?
If someone spends money, time, effort on you does this mean they love you?
Have you ever asked yourself why they did it? What do they get out of "loving" you?
If someone lies, steals, cheats, or hurts you does that mean they don't love you?
Have you ever asked yourself why they did that? What do they get out of hurting you?
Where do you draw the lines?
When can you say for a fact that someone loves you?
How is it that people can "love" you then throw you away and make you invisible from their world?
Did they ever love you?
Or maybe love was not love at all.
Maybe "love" was just a convenience for them so they could take the best of you then throw you away to just go and find someone else to "love" aka use until they are bored with them too or have nothing left to take.
Or maybe they are wounded too, loving the only way they know and allowing the pain to lash out in all the wrong ways.
But maybe they are playing games. Games they have been playing for so long that they don't even realize that they are playing them anymore.
More than likely its a mixture of these things and more.
What's our perception of love and people?
How do you define love?
Do you cherish the people you say you love....show them or tell them?
Do they love you back?
Does it matter?
Maybe not.
Maybe so.
You decide.
Decide what love is to you.
Decide how you want to show your love, to those you love.
Decide what means that others love you and where you draw your lines.