Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

broken-dragonfly · Joined: 11 May 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Canada

Hi everyone ! I thought I'd try the new forum (new for me). I'm having a good day and I hope everyone is as well (even though Mother's Day is tomorrow)dread,...dread,..couldn't find the right card,..so I had to make up my own. It goes like this.....Happy Mother's Day (front)
(inside) A least for me it is.....
For this is the last card you'll receive from me
For this is the year I finally break free..
Your corrupted mind and your twisted words..
Makes me rather drink a glass full of shards..
Your fantasy world and cruel lies..
Used to want to make me sit there and cry..
Not anymore with my allibies....
You dug your own hole,...lets see you get out
Cause this supply source has all run out...

Funny thing is,..
You'll read this over and over and
not really get it....
I know it may sound harsh to some and she won't care, but I got it off my chest. I was wondering though if anyone has ever really listened to the words in "Losing My Religion" by REM ? Does anyone else get the feeling it describes being with a narcissist? Maybe it's just me.....Let me know.....broken-dragonfly

justmee · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 692

Hello and welcome. I think I have posted to you on the other board. I know the song but would have to listen to it again and more closely, I will let you know.

Glad you are here,
justmee

seekingserenity · Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 179

Hi Dragonfly,

I like your poem. Thanks for posting it. I feel the same about my NM.
I will be glad when mother's day is over.

Welcome to this board,

Serenity

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 497

Great poem. "Losing My Religion" could apply to any false relationship. I use the word "false" because in a true relationship there isn't a "loser." I intepret the song to be about sacrificing one's soul under the illusion of love. The relationship with the N is the perfect example. So it aint just you my dear friend. I am delighted your day is going just swimmingly.

For those who are interested:

R.E.M. - Losing My Religion
Oh, life is bigger
It's bigger than you
And you are not me
The lengths that I will go to
The distance in your eyes
Oh no, I've said too much
I set it up

(chorus)
That's me in the corner
That's me in the spotlight, I'm
Losing my religion
Trying to keep up with you
And I don't know if I can do it
Oh no, I've said too much
I haven't said enough
I thought that I heard you laughing
I thought that I heard you sing
I think I thought I saw you try

Every whisper
Of every waking hour I'm
Choosing my confessions
Trying to keep an eye on you
Like a hurt lost and blinded fool, fool
Oh no, I've said too much
I set it up
Consider this
Consider this
The hint of the century
Consider this
The slip that brought me
To my knees failed
What if all these fantasies
Come flailing around
Now I've said too much
I thought that I heard you laughing
I thought that I heard you sing
I think I thought I saw you try

But that was just a dream
That was just a dream

(repeat chorus)

But that was just a dream
Try, cry, why try?
That was just a dream
Just a dream, just a dream
Dream

seekingserenity · Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 179

Thanks Thay for posting the lyrics. To me, the song is also about betrayal. I think many of us know that feeling well. We can't believe the words we hear coming out of the N's mouth. It's a painful betrayal of us, of our earnest intentions to be real.

Pretty_Lady · Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 554

Welcome broken-dragonfly,
I like to think my mother is not a N, but every time someone posts something, every thing said sounds just like my NM.
Less then a year ago my mother told me:
"Just because you buy gifts for mother's day, does not make you a good daughter."
I did not buy her anything this year, I want to be her dream bad daughter. I wish I had a decent mother to buy a gift and flowers for. I did that every single year, plus a nice lunch or dinner.
I am not sure what make a good daughter to a N mom. I do not know.
Lets not be too sad tho, it's a tradeoff. We lose, but we gain something instead. Something much more important, our love and resepct for ourselves.
Hugs,
PL
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The way out is through the door you came in.
R.D. Laing

thayilflies · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 497