Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

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Absolutely. In the extreme. It buys self-respect to him, and his mother is the same way. My family actually did an intervention of sorts before I married him, trying to warn me not to marry someone so greedy.

Absolutely...Money is their freedom and power. Me and my N had a very good relationship when it came to scheduling the childrens time around our work schedules when we were separated. He never was paying a dime to me for child support or to help pay off all the debt his playboy lifestyle ran up. When he decided to move 3 hours away and got a better paying job and one where he was the boss, I filed for full custody and child support and alimonoy for the debt. I got it, immediately, he turned into a crazy or I should say crazier person. He was no longer in control and now the court is enforcing the payments directly out of his paycheck. Instead he just wanted to give me money when it pleased him.

Hence, for the last 6 months instead of wanting to sit down and work on the divorce, he has been fighting the temporary support order, playing games with the kids, being nasty nasty and nastier. He refuses to sit down as per the magistarte order and start toward a settlement until the alimony is dropped. He had already filed ch.7 on all his debt (The bankruptcy court gave me the assets since I showed premarital in it) but I got stuck with all the rest of the bills. So he is still fighting the temp order and refuses to follow any of the court agreements between attorney's and magistrates unless they are a court order.

His attorney is milking him dry, and ,mine is just letting him do it. I still have not hit my retainer.

But because of the MONEY issue he cannot do the things he likes and supposedly I am blamed for him having to miss a meal a day. But he can take his professional race car driving lessons, go out drinking 3 nights a week and rent a $2000 per month house. Because he feels he is entitled to all of the money and that lifestyle. That is how they are. And MONEY comes before their kids.

I laughed at my N when he offered me $300 per month for 3 kids. WHen he makes $75k per year. He said that is all he can afford because he needed to save for his retirement , a new boat and an airplane. All N toys which they never use or take care of. But make them look big.

So YES....MONEY is everything...so go for every cent you can , even more than you are willing to settle on. That way when you get a little bit less and what you actually want he thinks he has won and you can be done with him. Remember, he will probably never settle and the judge will divide it for you.

Beware, keeep money out of every conversation with him even emails, he will try to use it against you. No information is good information.

My XN is is definitely obsessed with my money and my husband's money and does everything he can to get his hands on it!

He's too special to hold a job because they don't realize how wonderful he is and compensate him for it. They don't allow him to do and say whatever he pleases because he knows everything and is always right so that's a travesty right there. And he's such a perfect son that his 84yo mother gets the privilege of supporting him still and having him in her home, where he's been all his life! Including the 12 years we were married!

I pay him CS but it's not enough to support his desired lifestyle so he also has unemployment compensation and welfare and still his greedy hands are out there trying to grab more and more. Too bad he can't get that $50k/year job that he thinks he's owed despite still being an entry-level CSR at age 48.