Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

How can you fall in love with a person who is on the other side of the screen? Is this beyond reason or does it make sense?

well, not to my N, apparently. His only prime sources are online.

I did meet my N online 7 years ago. Not a good place to meet people unless they really aren't asses. Which, you only find out when you meet them, lol.

Met mine online almost seven years ago, and he was this great and wonderful goofy fun loving guy while he woo'ed me. Moved me to his town where he was living with another woman and soon moved in with me and became a monster.

Never believe they are what they say they are until you have seen them over a period of time and in person. They are bullshit artists online.

WindSong wrote:
Never believe they are what they say they are until you have seen them over a period of time and in person. They are bullshit artists online.

Oh, I know that. While anyone can pretend online, it seems as if this method is my N's preffered choice. Using that base of lies as a foundation for a relationship is doomed already.

My ex in the idealisation phases, acted like a perfect romeo online with hints here and there about his real character (that I couldnt see at the time, obviously), and even on the phone, would always send nice gifts and cards and everything. He was very persuasive, and to my naive, insecure, boundary-less, wanting-to-loved-self, was very convincing. Ahh .. easy pickings.

It's only in person when he can't keep up the facade anymore that you see he isn't meant to be in any human relationships whatsoever.

Does this sound like something an N would say because he knew it, or because he wanted attention/sympathy?

"i'm not for a relationship"

and

"I'm not meant for a relationship."

Of course, he said this online when he was d&ding me, and I always thought "nice to know 7 years later."

then again if he had, he wouldn't have gotten any source.