Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

SillyGal · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 132 Location: Florida

A month ago he took form my house a lot of things..bed, sheets, cutlery, dishes, garage opener and a car I bought and foolishly registered in his name.
Since I will have a roommate I need those things back.
So I called him asking for my things.
His reaction - basically he called me all the names , told me to take him to court and added that if I ever call him again he will get a RO against me.
I had NC for 3 weeks and I was doing so good.

I should have known better then picking up the phone and asking for my things back - however I feel so violated.
He basically robbed me of K of $$$ and my personal things.
If I take him to court that won't do any good. He has nothing. Not even a regular job.
It is so awful to feel so helpless!!!
If he robbed a store he would have had to pay for it - but robbing me he walks scott free.
_________________
LIFE LESSON " he is NOT worth YOUR tears"

FNPDHATER · Joined: 15 Mar 2007 Posts: 55

I imagine he knew that you'd call about your things sooner or later because you needed them. I'm lucky, she can keep anything I gave her and I'll just buy it again; but not everyone can do that...

Is there a bill of sale or receipt for the vehicle? That sounds like the biggest dollar item he took.

Taking him to court would just mean you have to look at his ugly ass again. Until your at the point that you could deal with that, it probably wouldn't be a good idea.

It sucks, we fall in love with someone and trust them and allow them into our lives and this is where it gets us. BUT, you are away from him and thats worth your whole life and not just a few thousand bucks.
_________________
A narcissist just plain sucks. Nothing but misery there...

fraggle_1972 · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 570

My exN stole thousands of $$ of jewellery, things that were to be passed on to my daughter (my engagment ring from my daughters father), an heirloom ring from my great great grandmother, a gold charm bracelet that was given to me for my 13th birthday and lots of other stuff, an antiquie doll that had been in the family for generations.

I have found lots of things "missing", he flatly denies taking anything that quote "did not belong to me"...so somehow, he thinks that these items are his.

livedthroughit · Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 964

SillyGal,

You are hurt, angry, feel betrayed. You have every right to feel this way -- you are the victim of financial abuse. It is as painful as many other forms of abuse, and I believe you must grief through it. I know it's commonplace with Ns, and yet for some reason I notice we don't talk about it too much on the forum.

If there is no reasonable way for you to get the car back, I would suggest you let it all go. I know that sounds insane, but the N would love to play a cat-and-mouse game with you to see what you would do to get it back. The ExN of my past plays all kinds of games hiding his income to avoid child support. When I first hired my attorney, she had a number of wonderful ideas to expose his lies. We fought him in court a few months, finally, my attorney, who has praticed family law for 20 years, sat me down and said she knew he was still hiding income, and my daughter deserved more than the child support he was paying. My attorney said we could go on fighting him in court for years. All that would likely happen is that he would spend a whole lot of money, I would spend a whole lot of money, and in the end, I would owe my attorney more than I would ever see from him. It sucks to let it go, but it's one less source of NS with the N, so it's gone.

Hugs to you. I know this is painful.

Theresa13 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 1546 Location: , Ontario

Dearest Silly...........hindsight is 20/20 for us all.............and like Lived through it..........I too got robbed and cheated out of everything........He'll spend every single penny he has to take me down and I finally decided it wasn't worth it...........As I look back I truly wish I had walked away............It just never seems to end and the horror goes on and on...............THEY ARE UNDOUBTEDLY THE MOST SELFISH SELF CENTRED BASTARDS, THAT GOD EVER PUT BREATH INTO..............and it still blows my mind when I think what they're able to get away with............They systems DON'T work and they're is rarely justice...............Justice my ass...........lawyers get rich, judges switch from one date to another.....half the stuff never even gets into court, and we end up on the short end of the stick...............BUT ONE DAY, ONE DAY, THEY'LL GET WHAT'S COMING AND IT WON'T BE PRETTY.............You can rest assured that what goes around comes around and I have to believe in that..............take care Always, Theresa
_________________
I've given my memoirs far more thought than any of my marriages. You can't divorce a book.

Hank · Joined: 13 Jun 2008 Posts: 26