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How will I get past this? Children of N chose to live with h

Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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How will I get past this? Children of N chose to live with h

Postby Hurt2long » Sat May 10, 2014 7:30 pm

No idea how to get past this. My ex N and I separated 9 yrs ago. The nightmare went from bad in our relationship to worse after. We have 2 children. I have always had primary care of our boys. I move across the country trying to protect them. He still has visitation and the grass has gotten greener with every year that passed. They have him on a golden pedestal and is their hero. I am the disciplinarian and rule enforcer. Now he asked them to say they should live with him instead. I am worried about their future. I am worried he will try to poison my relationship I have with them. They are 14 and 11 yrs old. Life has been so hard, when will this get better. We have everything spelled out in psychological assessments about how dangerous he is yet the courts dismiss this. How can I protect my children from their N father? How can I prevent them from becoming like their N father?
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Re: How will I get past this? Children of N chose to live wi

Postby samvaknin » Sat May 24, 2014 10:21 am

You can't. Read these:



Narcissistic and psychopathic parents and their children - click on the links:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/na ... ssage/4727

You may also find these of help - please click on the links (they apply to all types of relationships with narcissistic or psychopathic abusers of both genders):







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