http://business.time.com/2012/05/04/how ... your-enemy

How to Reach Your Enemy
By Harvard Business Review | May 4, 2012 | +
Tweet
Having enemies in the workplace is often destructive. Ideally you should try to work with your rival instead of against him. But if your collaborative efforts fail, try one of these strategies instead:

The BIBLE of NARCISSISM Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited in Barnes and Noble now COSTS USD $36 instead of USD $55!!! CLICK ON THIS LINK TO PURCHASE THE PRINT EDITION http://search.barnesandnoble.com/bookSe ... 8023833843

Find a common ally. Seek a third party whom your enemy trusts. A common ally may convince him of the benefits of working with you.
Wait for the right time. Sometimes people need time and space before they can see your side. Put off communication until the right opportunity presents itself.
Recognize when to go elsewhere. The effort of converting a rival is sometimes so great that you’re better off focusing your energy on another relationship.
NEW e-BOOK How to Divorce a Narcissist or a Psychopath - Click on this link now:

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi ... ORCEABUSER

New eBook! How to Cope with Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abusers and Stalkers - Click on this link now:

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_COPING
Adapted from “Make Your Enemies Your Allies” by Brian Uzzi and Shannon Dunlap.

http://business.time.com/2012/04/26/3-w ... ou-dislike
3 Ways to Handle a Colleague You Dislike
By Harvard Business Review | April 26, 2012 | 1

inShare12Log In with Facebook
Sharing TIME stories with friends is easier than ever. Add TIME to your Timeline.

Learn More
Abused? Stalked? Harassed? Victimized? Afraid? Confused? Need HELP? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! You OWE IT to yourself and to YOUR LOVED ONES! Save $63!!! BUY SIXTEEN e-books about toxic relationships with narcissists and psychopaths - for the PRICE OF A SINGLE PRINT BOOK! Click on this link:

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_SERIES
Working with a difficult person can be distracting and draining. Next time a colleague irritates you to no end, try these three things:


Manage your reaction. If someone annoys you, don’t focus on his behavior. Focus on how you react, which is usually the only thing you can control.
Keep it to yourself. Emotions are contagious, so complaining about a co-worker can bring everyone down. And it can reflect negatively on you. If you must vent, do it outside the office.
Work together. It’s counterintuitive, but by spending more time together you may develop empathy for your colleague. You might discover reasons for his behavior: stress at home, pressure from his boss, etc.
Adapted from “How to Work with Someone You Hate” by Amy Gallo.

Visit Harvard Business Review’s Management Tip homepage

Purchase the HBR Management Tips book

Read other related stories about this:
Getting Along With Coworkers May Add Years to Your Life Yahoo