Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

I understand that N's have no conscience however...

After raising our son together for 17years, my ex husband left us for another woman and never saw his child again. Every once in a while, he will contact our son and send him abusive text messages. My son is devastated. He doesn't understand how his father could leave and raise someone else's kids and not care about us anymore. He won't pay support unless we hunt him down and garnish wages until he leaves that job again. He isn't concerned about where we live or our living conditions.

We led a very affluent lifestyle and now my son and I are literally going without food sometimes. Will the N ever snap out of this? What does the other family have that he didn't have with us? The woman he is with is a serial homewrecker and has cost the N his job, his money, his stability, his family, everything. He treats us with complete contempt and absolute rage and puts her kids through college and even bought her a pet store that she always wanted to own.

After years of gaslighting, I can see the truth now. I just can't believe he'd let his only son starve.

While reading your post one thing imperticuliar came to mind- "narcissistic injury"! They will leave, abandon, threaten just to get away from NI.

He must have not been getting the desired relection/ mirror image of himself back from you that he needs to pacify his false self. Apparently, he DID get this with the new spouse, regardless if she's putting him in the poor house, because his false self is more important than money.

I think it is easier for them to run then to live up to anything.

My nm has nothing to do with her own grandchildren, how is that possible? what did they ever do to her to make her not love them. I honestly have no idea how they can dissasociate themselves with the people that love them the most.

get your son into counseling, it will benefit him greatly. he needs to know that he did nothing wrong.