2,5 years ago my best friend cheated on me with my girlfriend. When the friend found out I knew about it, he started to bully me by rubbing it in my face. He even said he didn't care. Obviously I was very mad (also very scared), and he used this too quickly turn my friends and colleagues (we were colleagues) against me.
I lost most of my friends and my workplace was like hell. 2 old friends quickly became is 'loyal followers' doing most of the smear campaign. Then I learned about psychopathy, and he has a whole lot of traits. He got fired quickly afterwards and i moved to another town, making literal no contact easy. but it is not easy at all, particulary because some old friends wanted to make it up with me, but I felt i couldn't tell them and tried to establish no contact with them as well.
In a few Weeks I Will move back to the town I come from and I am going to live with 2 mutual friends of me and the psychopath, because I have to leave this house.
I was really worried about what to do. What should I tell these friends? They remained neutral during our conflict, but they hang out with him weekly(!). Totday I was searching for help on the internet and red your article about te 'conflictive posture' wich appealed to me very much.
I was thinking about telling them he is a liar without a concience (calling him a psychopath will be counterproductive, I presume) and that they have to decide on their own about maintaining the friendship with him, but that I have to protect myself and put up boundaries. I will ask them to respect my wish to have minimal contact and not giving him any personal information about me.
What else can I do? How can I protect myself from him and further smear campaigns.