Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Theresa13 · Joined: 16 Feb 2007 Posts: 1546 Location: , Ontario

I think Disengaging and Lynneezer nailed it here....I exposed the N and the rath is still going on and on and on.... Took me from May 2004 to Nov 2004 to get the NC thing.....BUT I GOT IT (THANKS TO THIS BOARD) and I got it real good. Haven't spoken a word or engaged in any way except through coucil. PISSES HIM OFF BIG TIME, and he has to play it up all the more for OW to prove himself. Kinda funny to watch. I REALLY DO NOW GET THAT LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE...... and I might add that living well for me is not material wealth or financial worth, it's peace of mind and knowledge that I'm not like him and .....THAT I'M FINALLY WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN I EVER GOT FROM HIM. Feels like the light at the end of the tunnel is getting brighter..
Always, Theresa
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I've given my memoirs far more thought than any of my marriages. You can't divorce a book.

Lynnezer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 534

kat · Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 114 Location: oklahoma city

my ex-N reacted depending on if he thought he could lie his way out of it.

lie
deny
avoid
project
leave-bail-out

what else is there?

kat
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What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.......... Ralph Waldo Emerson

OutoftheDark · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 9

[quote="jomo20071"]I agree with Disengaging... mine would get angry at the exposure and say he felt "violated!" As in, HE felt violated when I found his email showing that he had cheated on me.

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Oh, I just had to reply to this one. Couldn't resist. I had the same thing happen-I found some secret online "pages" he had (where he was talking to other women), and he felt violated that I was nosing into his personal life.

Let's not talk about the fact that he had been hiding these pages from me for a year, and I had found them through a friend. I trusted him too much to ever go looking, but once they were brought to MY attention, I was making him uncomfortable by simply looking at them when someone SHOWED them to me.

Because you know, if we had talked about that, we would be bringing facts and logic into the situation. And everyone here knows THAT's not allowed in conflict resolution with an N. ' Wink

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OutoftheDark · Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 9

Sorry for the cluttered ways of my postings, I'm still learning the quoting tags, etc. Your patience with a non-techie is appreciated. Wink