Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 876

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1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

(((((hugs))))) Sad

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NancyCT · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1327 Location: Connecticut, USA

Summer, I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty. So sorry.

You were there when she was being born, and you were there when she died, and you shared everything that came between the two. What a gift! What a beautiful, special gift she was, and you also were to her. I feel for your loss, both for you and your son.

superheromom · Joined: 11 Aug 2007 Posts: 74

Summer,

That's so sad! D and I lost our cat in October. I bought a garden statue and we put it in the shrubbery along the front of the house. Our cat's "job" was to "protect" the house, myself and D. Mostly D. Whenever D was in her room and upset (usually because she was in a time-out), the cat would sit right outside her door until D calmed down.

I told D that the statue held the spirit of the cat and should stay in the front of the house to keep watch.

I feel for you for having to put your cat down. I've never had to do that before; nature has always taken it's course with my pets. I can't imagine going through something like that. These animals are nothing more than extra hairy family members.

Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 876

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livedthroughit · Joined: 20 Feb 2007 Posts: 946

((((((((((((Summer))))))))))))

I am so sorry for your loss.

Sailor2bill · Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 204

Summer, I was so sorry to read of your distress. I had a dog, Sandy, who lived till he was 21. He began to push his head into the corners of the room and seemed unwell. I took him to the vet who said he was doing that because he literally had a headache and the cool walls would ease it. Teats showed he had a brain tumour and he had to be put to sleep in the same way as your cat. My D was with me and it was so upsetting to see Sandy go to sleep. He had been 100% fit and active until the last few days. When you have experienced something like that for yourself, the sympathy you feel for others is all the stronger.
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Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 876

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cangel · Joined: 24 Feb 2007 Posts: 314

Summer,

First my sympathies for your loss! Pets are such a comfort to us all of the time - I think that it was wonderful that you and your S were there to comfort her in her last moments.

The email from the N about the phone call was disgusting!!! This from someone who wants to parent your S full time??? I say this email needs to go to your attorney. How dare his child call and expect sympathy, help, support.........makes a person crazy doesn't it.

I have to hand it to you for being about to maintain your cool! Hang in there.

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Sailor2bill · Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 204

Summer, you sound like a caring human being but as you say, N is dead inside. They are so empty of normal feelings that I think of them as psychopaths. N's reply was really all about himself, not you or your cat. I counted four 'me's' in two lines of his.
Anyway, a bit of good news: I now have a Llasa Apso dog here. Looks cuddly but is bigger than average and is one tough dog. I gave him a dog biscuit about an hour ago and he choked on it. He was wheezing, heaving and retching and his eyes were going glazed. I held him partly upside down and squeezed his chest hard a few times. It cleared and he's looking at me now like nothing happened. I've done it before to one of the kids choking at the table. I think it's called Heinrich's procedure, I've never learned it, it just seems like commonsense. Can I call it 'Sailor's procedure' now?
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1ablueprincess · Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 195

It is sooo hard to lose a pet, and then to have to deal with an arogant N on top of it is just tooo much! Please keep your cool and I know it will be hard, but you can do it!!
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Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 876

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Sailor2bill · Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 204

Summer, I went to my boat today to winterise it before the freeze. I got to thinking about Kitty and there is one other thing: You describe N's reaction - dead inside. You say that you and S were crying as Kitty was put to sleep and I said that shows you as a caring person. When you think about it, it also shows S as a normal caring person and that is so important. I think there's always a fear that your children will somehow inherit Ns ways. Clearly your S is as compassionate and caring as could be. Perhaps Kitty died for a reason - to show you this.
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Sailor2bill · Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 204

Summer , I just posted into cyberspace so I'll try again. You say that N showed himself as dead inside, by his reaction. I said you are a caring person by your reaction, but think about it: You say that you and S were crying as Kitty was put to sleep. This also shows S as a normal, caring and compassionate person. I think there's always some fear that your children can inherit N's ways but your S clearly has none of this coldness.
Perhaps Kitty died to show you this.
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Summer · Joined: 15 Feb 2007 Posts: 876

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