Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

I have known for some time that she is a narcissist. The world would never believe it. Today, I think I could truly just break off any connection with her. But there is a granddaughter. And she is a newborn.

My daughter is the ultimite trickster.Sweet, demure, and always playing me off against her father. Unfortunately also narcissistic. She has a good game going. Husband is attorney. She is in adolescent psych. She has it all together with the psychobabble, and her childhood trauma from me.

Born again religion is in on this too.

I used to be embarrassed by her disregard for me.In public. A salutitorian address. She said something very cruel about me. Christain school. But this was tolerated. Hurting me has always been on a grand scale. I have feared attending college graduation or her wedding.

I have fought to have contact with her in the past. But then I stopped fighting. Contact is too painful. At holiday's I get a couple hours. I call it,"throwing me a scrap". And we pretend like all is all right.

When I doubt that she has the disorder, it is when I see her do good things. I was a "save the world" type college student. So was she. I am in a helping profession. She is also. Her father is business.I see her with so many people who love her. She has relationships, and friendships.

But somewhere along the way, it became acceptable to treat me with disdain, and disrespect.I guess the way her father sees me.

I won't win. I am beyond believing that she will wake up and realize that I am not what she believes me to be. This wretched mother, who caused so much pain. Today she told me that they are going to limit the 1:1 time with the baby and children.

But, in a way I predicted this. She is predictable. And I am not going to be defensive, for I have nothing to defend.

But I keep returning with my open arms. Is that the incorrect thing to do?

You should treat your daughter as you would any other narcissistic abuser:

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Working with the System and with Professionals

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