Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Elayne · Joined: 17 Apr 2007 Posts: 14

I want to ask others out there how they cope when one of their parents is the narcissist in there life. My mother is a narcissit and has manic depression. I have read that the only way to protect yourself from them is to stay away. But I have two children... and this is there grandmother. How do I stay away? What about my relationship with my father?

I am tired of being hurt.. over and over again by her. I am ready to walk away and take care of my own. But I can't help feel that I am obligated to keep some sort of relationship. Help!
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Elayne

Cookie2 · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 1378

You ARE NOT obligated to keep a relationship with her.....2 out of 3 of our grown kids took the side of the xp when I divorced him.They have kids...my grandkids....Since their parents fell for the lies and manipulations of my x p I have not seen my grandchildren in 5 yrs! Why would I....the xp did what they do so well....played like he was the victim...the good guy.....I am the horrible person.....So no grandchildren will I see....except for the ones of the daughter who sided with me simply because she saw it as 'right'.....This daughter has also lost her dads whole family......my whole family(smear campaign worked) and all of her cousins....his smear wasnt only done on me but on her as well.Believe me...the 2 kids I lost to him have absolutly NO guilt over throwing me out of their lives....removing a grandmother from their kids lives....and because of their strong denial of what their dad is they have kept a VERY sick man in their lives! You are not obligated to keep someone who hurts you in your life.....
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I have a photographic memory....I just don't have same day service.....................Cookie

Riccy101 · Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 287

Hi Elayne.

Try posting this question on the "N Mothers and Fathers" board. You will get a flood of responses.

N's don't make good grandparents. If you think the guilt you are feeling is bad, wait until you find that your mother had damaged your children or ruined your relationship with them. Talk about guilt then!!! Don't feel guilty, Elayne. You are protecting children the way YOU should have been protected when you were growing up.

Riccy