Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group

Are you involved with an Abuser/Narcissist/Psychopath?

The chances are, if you are reading this, then the answer is yes, if you are still unsure, read as much as you can in the links and recourse section, once you have established you are, you could end up experiencing lots of different emotions, including feeling scared, alone, confused and possibly trapped and wondering what you need to do, to end your nightmare.

Its not easy to accept that you are with an abuser, that’s understandable, because its a lot to take in, but the fact is, if you are, once you do accept this, you are 50% there with getting over them.

It’s Not Your Fault

The most important thing to remember is you didn’t cause their treatment towards you and you cannot fix it, NO, you cannot, and there is no evidence to say that abusers can change.

It’s Not Your Fault

Learn as much as you can about Projection, this is where your abuser will convince you its all your fault, when infact, they are projecting their own selves onto you, listen very carefully, they are telling you what they are about.

It’s Not Your Fault

Hoovering – This is another abuse tactic, where the abuser will tell you anything that he/she knows what you want to hear, to keep you and their control over you. Do not get taken in by this, as mentioned, there is no evidence that abusers can change, regardless of what they say to you.

The most important thing is your Safety, to keep yourself safe, the only way out, is to start making plans to leave them and finish the relationship, do not tell your abuser, any of your plans to get away from them, even if he/she has never been physically abusive it doesn’t mean they will not be, when they start to lose their Power and Control over you, this is when they could get worse before they finally disappear, be very aware of that.

It’s Not Your Fault

The chances are you will feel scared, alone, confused and isolated, so its very important to get a Support Network around you, which can include, the local Domestic Violence Centre, who will be able to give you lots of advice and details of where to get support, a Therapist, the Police if needed, a Lawyer/Solicitor if needed, any friends or family that you can trust, infact as many people as you can get ,as one of the ways the abuser abuses, is by isolating you.

You will find lots of support on this forum, from people that are going through what you are going through, and others who have made it out to the other side, the more you speak out about this, and the more questions you ask the more sense everything will start to make to you.

It’s Not Your Fault

Only you can do something about this, and the answer isn’t fixing them, it’s saving YOU.

Once you have physically left your abuser, then you can start to help yourself emotionally detach, with the No Contact Contract.

All the best to you with your plans on leaving your abuser, you are not alone there is plenty of support out there, for YOU.

And most of all remember – If you are being abused, it’s not your fault.

Why We Stay
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Victim/whystay.htm

How Abusers Brainwash Their Victims
http://heart-2-heart.ca/women/page3.html

Checklist for Leaving an Abuser
http://www.abuse.com/domestic_violence/ ... Abuser.htm

The No Contact Contract
http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/the ... t9911.html