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Are my hands still tied?

Sam Vaknin is the author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" and 8 other books about personality disorders and abuse in relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. He is the owner and moderator of support forums and the first person to have written about the Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) online (in 1997). He invented many of the terms currently used to describe the disorder and its effects on family, the workplace, and in various professions.

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Are my hands still tied?

Postby Freeandhealing » Wed Mar 11, 2015 8:10 pm

After almost 19 years of a verbally and mentally abusive marriage with a narcissistic husband, I finally found my way out, and thankfully so did my youngest daughter (who is now 20). My oldest daughter (he adopted her when she was 4 and we were newly weds) stayed with him because everyone else was leaving and she would be all alone. The gory details are that in the last 10 years of our marriage , my husband refused to sleep in the same bed as me, saying I snored too loud or the bed made his back hurt. But more than once I woke in the morning to find my then 16 yr old laying on his mattress on the living room floor with him. I balked, complained, even reprimanded her and she have excuses about her bedroom having a wasp or ladybug in it. Soon we moved into a new house and the story changed, but he and she slept on the couch! Him on one side and her on the other. I was in total denial that anything was ever going on, but friends and relatives asked me why he always called her cell and not mine, etc. she never dated during HS or college, and once graduated continued to live with us until I left and as I said she still is with him. My final realization of the facts were when my 4 yr old grandson stated to his mom that he tried to crawl into bed with the two of them the other night and they promptly returned him to his own bed! How can I get to my daughter ? She won't respond to me when called or texted. She is so much in a Stockholm syndrome situation and I need some help and suggestions please
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Re: Are my hands still tied?

Postby samvaknin » Fri Mar 13, 2015 12:21 pm

Your daughter is an adult. She has the right to make her own choices and commit her own mistakes. All you can and should do is share your point of view with her and refer her to relevant literature.

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