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dagna



Joined: 18 Apr 2007
Posts: 493
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 3:41 pm    Post subject: 3 hours and counting... Reply with quote
OK, God willing my divorce will be final in 3 hours. The verySTB-EX is in another state, and I just have to 'prove-up' at the court house with my laywer and get a signature from a judge. I have a feeling the 'fun' will begin after things are final, but aside from a few small bumps, the road has been smooth.

I can't even begin to list the emotions that I feel right now. Anyone want to come over to MY (IT'S MINE MINE ALL MINE) house for a drink this afternoon????? I'll make margaritas. Or sangria. Or just plain old lemonade if that is your fancy.
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livedthroughit



Joined: 20 Feb 2007
Posts: 964
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 3:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
What the heck -- I don't even drink, but make the Margarita's and just add some Sangria to them...

Congrads!!!!
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NancyCT



Joined: 28 Feb 2007
Posts: 1371
Location: Connecticut, USA
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 4:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Congratulations, dagna!!! Margaritas sound great! I'll be toasting you from here.

Of course, I'm terribly jealous! I still have a long row to hoe.

I can only imagine the range of emotions for you right now.

Best wishes,
Nancy
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ohgal



Joined: 16 Feb 2007
Posts: 129
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 4:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Dagna,
What time should I be there for margaritas???!!
CONGRATS!!! Enjoy YOUR house..
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lemondroppr



Joined: 10 Feb 2007
Posts: 1422
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 5:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Congrats Dagna!
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Summer



Joined: 15 Feb 2007
Posts: 902
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 7:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
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dagna



Joined: 18 Apr 2007
Posts: 493
PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 9:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Well it is done. I don't feel much like celebrating. I feel like crawling into a hole and not coming out. I don't want to raise my kids alone. It is hot and we have no air conditioner. I don't know where the money is going to come from. The kids. The kids. I worry so much about their future. I hate this. I just hate it. And I don't know how the H they do it. I called to tell him that we are divorced-- and of course find out that something really really horrible happened to him the night before. I believe him because there was police involvement, and there were some repercussions for me. How the hell does he manage to make our divorce, something that should be a big deal, and mush it into minutae by this event????? How does he do it? AND feel like barfing again due to the NS. I am usually ok but right now I just want to yell and scream and hit the ground. Because he goes on with his little life as if there weren't 20 years there, as if there aren't two children. As if all I gave means nothing. Fi-ing bastard. I want to scream because I messed up royally at work this week and I got divorced, and I had an extremely surreal ordeal involving a ferrel kitten yesterday and I want to go home into the arms of some Mr. Not Pretend Guy who will hold me and tell me it's going to be ok and offer me a glass of red wine while he makes me dinner and entertains the kids. And then after the kids are in bed we can sit on the couch and just talk drink more wine and laugh and listen to music and then well, who knows...

OK I feel a little better now.
Dagna
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Summer



Joined: 15 Feb 2007
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
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NancyCT



Joined: 28 Feb 2007
Posts: 1371
Location: Connecticut, USA
PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
dagna,

Now that you are divorced from the N, you can have that chance to have Mr. Not Pretend Guy hold you and comfort you, and offer you a glass of wine with the dinner he's prepared for you while he entertains the kids... in your future. You didn't have that kind of future in store with your N. For now, you have friends with shoulders to lean on, and you could still have that wine. Maybe take-out instead, and entertain the kids with a video? You will be OK. Everything will work out for you, I'm sure. The worst is behind you. Change is scary, but change is good.
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dagna



Joined: 18 Apr 2007
Posts: 493
PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 2:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Thanks everyone. I feel much better today. The past few days have worn me down, not just because of the divorce, but also a strange series of other events. I can honestly say that yesterday was the first day I even had the thought of Mr. Not Pretend Guy pass through my brain. I'll be fine with or without him. But it would have been nice if last night my kids hadn't discovered the caulk gun while I was in the other room cleaning (good thing I have a sense of humor). I never did get that drink. Probably for the best...

Dagna (breathing deeply and waiting for Mercury to come out of retrograde)
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